How To Know When You’re Ready To Start Dating Again After A Breakup

In a recent panel for “American Idol,” Jennifer Lopez revealed that she jumps from one relationship to the other because she doesn’t like to be alone. And she’s not the only one who does so. A woman I know once told me that the only way she can get over one guy is by replacing him with another. But is that really getting over the guy?

Breakups are tough, regardless of how the decision was made to end the relationship. There is always some sense of loss. After all, you didn’t.

After a breakup, it’s normal to have a lot of confusing feelings. You might miss your ex, but feel simultaneously angry with them. You could be feeling lonely, but you know your ex probably isn’t the best person to console you. Logic interferes with emotion, and it can feel overwhelming all around. Even once you clear your head a little bit and time goes on, you might still feel the urge to text your ex.

If you’ve made up your mind to go for it, just how long should you go without contacting your ex after a breakup?