Dear Therapist: I’m Ashamed of How I Treated My Dying Husband

This begs the following question:. Usually when a woman comes to me, they have already decided to divorce. But there are times that I wonder if that divorce was necessary, or was it just easier?

The ambivalence of a woman who is married to a very sick spouse and has never Similarly, a widow dating a married man will be subject to greater criticism than a Should You Have an Affair When Your Partner Is Dying?

Please keep your comments respectful. Can you tell us a bit about your romantic history? My longest relationship was for 2 years. We lived together but we were at different places in our lives and had bit of an awkward, drawn out break-up. It left me pretty down for about 6 months or so afterwords. How did you meet this man that you had an affair with?

We worked together — what a cliche! What did he tell you about his wife and home life? He was completely upfront about it because we were just friends in a large group of work colleagues. It was completely normal for him to mention his wife. A lot of the people in the office had met her at various work parties so I was aware of her. How did you rationalize the affair to yourself?