How To Get Your Ex Back After a Year or More Apart

And most of us fully subscribe to this. Exes are exes for a reason, aren’t they? And up until a few years ago, I was the world’s biggest advocate of leaving the past in the past.

If your relationship with your ex was super casual, you ended on good terms, or it’s been years since you broke up, then you’re likely in the clear.

Sometimes, when a relationship ends, both of you feel that calling things to a close was the right thing to do. We speak to a lot of people who are in this situation — particularly on our free online counselling service Live Chat. However, this is often much easier to understand in theory than it is to accept emotionally. You may be perfectly aware that your partner no longer wants to be with you. They may have even said this.

Sometimes, this process can be difficult. It can be blunt. Ultimately, you may need to accept that it does take two people to be in a relationship. If you feel like you and your ex can have an amicable discussion about the end of your relationship and that having this would be genuinely helpful, then there are circumstances when this can work. But it can also mean putting yourself in a potentially painful position. Often, hearing why a relationship ended can be as unpleasant as the end itself.